Almost a decade ago I survived a breakup that hurt like hell. I was young, foolish, and had fallen head over heels for the guy who left me. When we broke up, I locked myself up in my room for many months, refusing to leave the house or see anyone. Thinking back to that time, my mind could only see my ex…

If it’s taught, it can be unlearned. Jane Elliott says ongoing racism can disappear in two generations — and she has experience making it happen–but it’s up to us. Watching her training is a start: Update: Jane appeared with Waylon in our free Friday gathering. “I invited Jane Elliott to make me, and us, uncomfortable. To let me have it. To educate us. She did so. With heart, humor, wisdom (this is appropriate for children, I think, too).”

In a way, these last few months been wonderful, healing, and rejuvenating for me. And then, they’ve also been uncomfortable and painful, at least in some ways, in some moments. It’s such a strange thing — to feel such contrasting feelings at once. I feel them coexisting alongside each other — the excitement, the hope, the warmth, the inspiration, along with the sadness, the…

When it comes to relationships, I either feel way ahead of the curve or permanently trying to catch up. Rarely do I feel settled or sure — which might explain why I’m nearing my mid-30s and still single. I think most of us would agree that relationships are complicated. They take work. …

I’ve been in a long, complicated relationship with my anxiety. It has become a powerful entity that lives in my mind and refuses to retreat. I’ve tried different methods and practices to keep it at bay. Some work; others don’t. Some are temporary; others are enduring. Throughout the years and many personal struggles, it has become clear to me that…

Offer your thanks to the turkeys, if so inspired, in the comments at the bottom. ~ Waylon ~ “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” ~ Meister Eckhart Thanksgiving is about, well, giving thanks. Thanksgiving is about family, and community, about gathering, slowing down, about…

I want to share something that I still get nervous saying out loud to myself: I’m not always happy in my relationship. There are mornings I wake up and feel less than content or gracious for my partnership. In fact, some days I feel unhappy. Unappreciated. Unseen. Overworked. Underloved. Downright, f*ckin’ bothered. I used to try my hardest to stuff these feelings down. To pretend…

I’m no Amazon fan. I’m a fan of supporting local shops, for vibrant downtowns and fun, cheering communities. I’m no Amazon fan. I’d prefer to support middle-class jobs than Bezos. While that may seem simplistic, Amazon has gutted the publishing/book industry and counterfeited many other once-profitable products. …

The notion of leaving the person we love is bewildering. It’s insane. It’s startling. It’s impossible. But for her, it is possible. It would only be insane if she stayed. Don’t judge her. Don’t stone her to death. You have to walk a mile in her shoes to understand what she is doing. She is beautiful, intelligent, sensitive. She is…