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This Quote on Trust might Save your Relationship.
Trust.
They say it makes or breaks a relationship.
And it’s true.
Affairs and disloyalty have always existed throughout history, but in today’s fast and modern world, cheating and lying have become easier — more accessible.
With more social media platforms, new ideologies, and more convenience, trust has become easy to break. Add to that our traumas and past hurts, and we have a recipe for disaster.
Chances are we’ve all been hurt or betrayed. So we become vigilant in the hope of not experiencing the same pain again. We might snoop on our partner’s phone, stay present with them at all times, or interrogate them.
We’d do anything to make sure they won’t betray us.
We think that by controlling the other person, we can control the outcome. And when we control the outcome, then we might be able to trust them.
But Esther Perel, the notorious psychotherapist, thinks differently. In her book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, she says:
“If we accept that the certainty we long for is something we may never truly have, we can reframe the notion of trust. Yes, trust is built and strengthened by actions over time, but by the same token, trust is also a…
